|My wife and I have been married for ten years, we both used to have friends, but they kind of got lost in translation over some time.About five years ago and every once in a while, since then, my wife brought up the fact that she would like to cuddle someone just for the connection and felt it would bring (not sexual).
Currently, I’m away from my wife for a little bit, and recently she brought up the fact that she doesn’t have friends and misses being able to talk to other people. I’m ok with that, I trust her, and she has that right as a person.
She met a male friend online talked for about a week, including a video chat here and there, and he came over to meet her in person this last weekend (Mind you she grew up with three brothers so is naturally closer to males as friends).
My mother in law is also at my house to stay with my wife to help out with the kids while I’m away, and she was in the picture when he came over.My wife has anxiety, and he has anxiety, so the 3 of them (wife, mother in law, male friend) were drinking to relax and just have a good night, and they did, nothing sexual happened just a simple hug when he left, and my wife happily told me the next day.
She brought the cuddle idea up again, except doing it with him, no sex, no foreplay, just cuddling and watching a movie at my house. I researched this extensively and am entirely aware of how cuddling can make a woman feel, and it is not sexual, hell, I like to cuddle.
I trust my wife wouldn’t cheat or get feelings, and she says that he wants to be friends (he told my wife his life story, and he sounds super lonely and depressed). She also brought the idea up of all of us cuddling once I get back. I told her to take it slow, don’t have him come over too often, and next time don’t drink to feel the situation out better.
I love the fact that my wife has a friend she can talk to a male or not, and I’m happy for her I don’t know how to take the cuddling thing if they were to do it every so often (downstairs on the couch fully clothed watching a movie).
She also brought up that once I meet him in person, that we could all possibly have a threesome after some time (I’m curious). Still, nothing sexual would ever happen unless I was there (we had had one before with a different person and enjoyed it, no issues on marriage). I’m pretty sure it’s because of the fear of my wife leaving me, but I’m not sure I can’t pinpoint it, I know this is something she’s wanted for years, and I want to give it to her, and I want our marriage to be the best it can.
I have not talked to the guy via text or anything but plan on it very soon so I can get to know him and hopefully become friends as well. My wife and I live our relationship on trust and honesty, so she tells me everything she feels and vice versa. I was just wondering what you guys thought about my situation, and any advice would help.