Blaq Box Confessions: Husband Claims He Was Raped By A Woman While He Was Drunk

Johanna: July 10, 2021

When my husband and I first got together, he had a bad drinking problem, especially liquor. He would become a different person and not remember what would happen or what was said. This was one of those times.

I was across the country packing and planning a move across the country to be with him. He went out bar hopping got drunk, and this is what he remembers from that night.

At one bar, he ended up running into a girl that he had hooked up with various times before me. She had this whole sob story about having just gotten an abortion and needed to be around someone. My husband bought the story and brought her over to his place. He told her in his words, explicitly, that he was not interested in anything sexual or flirtatious as he was very much in love with me and wouldn’t do anything to mess that up.

She said that’s fine and that she understands, and they fell asleep in the same bed. He is so drunk during this interaction that he blacks out and doesn’t remember anything else. That is until he wakes up and sobers up from the pleasure that she forced on him. He doesn’t remember consenting, only waking up from the excitement of her mounting him.

He yells at her and calls her a rapist. She even almost has the cops called on her from the amount of yelling and drama she was causing. He promises that he never was in contact with her again other than random messages she would send, but he would not respond. He stayed friends with her on social media because he says he was afraid that she would go “crazy on his pregnant wife.”

He never told me about this until three years later. I confronted her and asked if he was telling the truth. I didn’t think that a rapist would admit to it, but I wanted to hear what she would have to say. As soon as I contacted her, she took a screenshot and sent it to my husband, then blocked me.

She claims to him that she doesn’t remember that night at all. We have been having problems, and he talked garbage about me to her, mostly because he says he was angry that I insinuated that he lied. He even accepted sympathy from her for our marriage problems. He says he regretted this and apologized and sends her a message saying what she did was abuse, plain and simple and that he was blocking her.

Honestly, I don’t know how to feel about this. On the one hand, I’m angry at the woman because I want to believe him, and she is a rapist. I do believe men can be raped, and from what he describes, it is rape. The part that I’m having a problem with, though, is that he invited an ex over to comfort her, sleep in the same bed as her, but then claims he is loyal, but sleeping in the same bed isn’t being faithful.

When he’s drunk, he doesn’t remember things. What if he did consent? But if that’s the case, then that isn’t consenting. I’m so confused.

Blaq Box Confessions: My Wife had emotional affair with old flame

Eric: June 25, 2021

I found out This past Monday that my wife of 12 years was having an emotional affair with and old flame from her past. He was her first boyfriend. They were chatting via Facebook and apparently sexting too. They were going to physically meet up but I caught it before it happened. My WS was dumb enough to ask if I minded if she went to dinner with her old BF who was coming to town in a few days. Im a very trusting husband and said yes at first but had strong reservations. Later that night I had a strong dream that we were fighting ( we never fight) about her going to dinner with this guy. That dream was so strong that I started digging into things the next day . I felt horrible because this is a woman who I have trusted for 12 years with my full trust.

On her Facebook and found this guy ( I only knew his first name) Once I found him in her friends I found their chats. I was so shocked, I could not believe what I was reading! She was telling him that she loved him on every chat and she was even calling him, things she called me!  This was so devastating to me. They had also talked about how they were going to see each other.

I confronted her when she got home from work that day. She said it was only harmless flirting at first but I kept telling her I knew more than she knew I knew. I called a bluff and asked her about “the sexting” when I wasnt even sure if she was sexting him or not, she admitted to it! I asked her how long was this going on and she said at first a year, then said it was maybe a year and a half. She still tried to say that it was just something stupid she was doing and it meant nothing. My gut tells me different. The inflection in the chats, along with all the emojis tell me this relationship was very serious. She also denied that she would have gotten physical with him, she claimed that she had decided after all that she was not going to dinner with him early that morning after she asked me. I dont believe that one bit.

Im devastated and still cannot believe this is happening. 12 years together, never a fight, she was my best friend, we did everything together! Now this! Im so so heartbroken and numb. 

Blaq Box Confessions: Wife wants to cuddle and Receive Affection from another man.

  • TrappyGuest June 20, 2021 at 3:56 am
  • |My wife and I have been married for ten years, we both used to have friends, but they kind of got lost in translation over some time.About five years ago and every once in a while, since then, my wife brought up the fact that she would like to cuddle someone just for the connection and felt it would bring (not sexual).
  • Currently, I’m away from my wife for a little bit, and recently she brought up the fact that she doesn’t have friends and misses being able to talk to other people. I’m ok with that, I trust her, and she has that right as a person.
  • She met a male friend online talked for about a week, including a video chat here and there, and he came over to meet her in person this last weekend (Mind you she grew up with three brothers so is naturally closer to males as friends).
  • My mother in law is also at my house to stay with my wife to help out with the kids while I’m away, and she was in the picture when he came over.My wife has anxiety, and he has anxiety, so the 3 of them (wife, mother in law, male friend) were drinking to relax and just have a good night, and they did, nothing sexual happened just a simple hug when he left, and my wife happily told me the next day.
  • She brought the cuddle idea up again, except doing it with him, no sex, no foreplay, just cuddling and watching a movie at my house. I researched this extensively and am entirely aware of how cuddling can make a woman feel, and it is not sexual, hell, I like to cuddle.
  • I trust my wife wouldn’t cheat or get feelings, and she says that he wants to be friends (he told my wife his life story, and he sounds super lonely and depressed). She also brought the idea up of all of us cuddling once I get back. I told her to take it slow, don’t have him come over too often, and next time don’t drink to feel the situation out better.
  • I love the fact that my wife has a friend she can talk to a male or not, and I’m happy for her I don’t know how to take the cuddling thing if they were to do it every so often (downstairs on the couch fully clothed watching a movie).
  • She also brought up that once I meet him in person, that we could all possibly have a threesome after some time (I’m curious). Still, nothing sexual would ever happen unless I was there (we had had one before with a different person and enjoyed it, no issues on marriage). I’m pretty sure it’s because of the fear of my wife leaving me, but I’m not sure I can’t pinpoint it, I know this is something she’s wanted for years, and I want to give it to her, and I want our marriage to be the best it can.
  • I have not talked to the guy via text or anything but plan on it very soon so I can get to know him and hopefully become friends as well. My wife and I live our relationship on trust and honesty, so she tells me everything she feels and vice versa. I was just wondering what you guys thought about my situation, and any advice would help.

Blaq Box Confessions: Boyfriend Cheated and Had A Trio With My Sister and Best Friend

  • Aria: July 5, 2021 at 6:26 am
  • Last week I found out my boyfriend had a trio with my best friend and sister in my apartment while I was fast asleep in the next room. This happened about two weeks prior.
  • My best friend decided to come clean as she felt terrible about it. However, she also told me after they got finished.
  • My boyfriend and sister jumped into the shower together afterward, and according to her, they did it again in the shower all while I’m still asleep in another room.
  • My sister had asked her to join in again, but my best friend said no and went to sleep. Since finding out, I’ve cut off my boyfriend and my sister but don’t know if I can keep my best friend in my life. Although she finally came out about it and showed remorse. I’m still hurt about what she did with him and don’t know if I could trust her again.I confronted my sister and boyfriend, and they originally denied it but have since told the truth. That they did it twice! Although I suspect it’s been more than that. I believe they were hooking up constantly during our relationship, but they claim it was only twice.I can’t believe they acted normally the following morning as nothing had happened. My best friend was acting strange, but I thought nothing of it.My sister had reached out to me through a fake account and, instead of an apology or show remorse for what she did, said since I didn’t want a relationship with her anymore, she may as well go ahead and be in a relationship with my ex-boyfriend! She then proceeded to tell me how my ex-boyfriend told her that it was better with her and how he thought she was the hotter sister. He even told me what they did in the shower. She’s disgusting.My boyfriend has also tried reaching out to me, begging for me to come back to him. A family member informed me yesterday that my sister has tagged my ex in relationship status on Facebook and put a picture of them together as her profile picture. She even uploaded a picture of them in bed together. He was not dressed, and she had a bracelet on.The disrespect is insane. I’m heartbroken and will never speak to my sister again. Now, what should I do with my best friend? Should I continue my friendship with her or cut her off too?
  • I need help, please!